Ahh, the typical who loves who more scenario… When things are fine but you just can’t help but wonder if you’re doing much more effort than your partner or feel that you love them more than they love you. You’re In A One-Sided Relationship
One-sided relationships are not just confined to romantic relationships, it could happen between friends or even family. Here are ways to tell if you’re in a one-sided relationship that is draining you completely.
By Mariam Elhamy
1. You Often Change Your Plans to Accommodate Their Schedule
Even if it’s inconvenient for you, but you always make sure to schedule your day based on their needs and for their comfort when they don’t do the same for you.
2. You Initiate Most Get-Togethers Or Any Sort of Communication
You’re the one who’s always texting them first and asking to see them. When they do ask about you first it’s because they need something or they’re bored and have nothing else to do. How do you know? Ask if their week was busy and they made time especially for you. You’re in A One-Sided Relationship
3. Their Needs Are The Main Focus of The Relationship
Their goals always come first no matter what you want. You’re mainly looking after their needs and dreams but they don’t show much consideration to what you might wish for.
4. You Always Care About How Their Day Is Going
You randomly find yourself thinking about how they’re spending their day and wanting to ask them about it but they don’t seem to be as interested to hear what’s going on with you.
5. You Constantly Make Up Excuses for Them
They’re late, they don’t ask about you, they’re not there when you need them, they hurt you but don’t admit it or apologize but you always manage to make up an excuse for them and forgive their upsetting behavior.
6. You Initiate Any Intimacy
You’re always seeking a cozy and somewhat private atmosphere when you’re with them but they don’t seem to care for it. When you care about someone you impulsively feel like hugging them or being physically close to them, you know it’s one-sided if you’re always initiating that and they’re not on the same vibe.
7. You Constantly Apologize for Things You’re Wrongfully Blamed for
Whenever anything goes wrong you’re always the one to blame and everything falls on you. They constantly complain about how you do this or that but when you try to mention the things that bother you, they don’t acknowledge, change or give much attention to what you say. You’re in A One-Sided Relationship
8. You’re Always Worried They Might Leave
Being in a healthy relationship means that you feel safe with them but if you’re always worried that the relationship might end then it’s very toxic for you.
The first step to addressing a one-sided relationship is awareness, once you know it’s happening, be honest about what you need or expect and set boundaries. Find out if what they want out of the relationship is mismatched with your own goals and if so you’ll need to limit your interaction and take a step back.