By: Mariam Elhamy
“I knew they were the love of my life the minute they walked in the door”… This kind of stuff only happens in sappy love stories and fairytales. It’s so hard to know whether the person you’re with is actually the one or whether you can spend the rest of your life with them. We can’t guarantee to give you the answer but we’ll give you a few pointers on how to tell if the relationship is going somewhere.
1. You Spend a Lot of Quality Time Together.
You spend a lot of time together even if there’s nothing much to do. You’re always excited to see them and listen to their silly stories and lame jokes.
2. You’ve Met Their Friends and Family.
You’ve both met each other’s family and friends and they never make you feel uncomfortable. They always talk about how cute you are together (even if it’s awkward).
3. You See Them in your Future Plans.
You’ve talked about your future plans and dreams and you can totally imagine or fit them in the picture.
4. You Miss Them… A Lot.
You think about them often throughout your day when you’re apart and imagine all the things you want to do with them.
5. You Always Explore New Activities Together.
You end up enjoying the activities you never really liked because you’re doing it with them and because they like it. You don’t mind trying new things together.
6. They Know How to Handle Your Bad Days.
They know how to pick you up when you’re down and make you feel better. They never get tired of listening to you and opening up about their own problems.
7. They Have Your Back.
They support and encourage your dreams. They’re always happy when you succeed even if your success outweighs theirs. They’re not afraid to tell you the truth about what they think of your work.
8. You’re Not Afraid to Spend Time Apart.
Part of being in a healthy relationship is actually spending time apart whether alone or with other people. Maintaining your other relationships/career is a good sign of a balanced long term relationship.
9. Your Arguments Bring you Closer Not Apart.
Fighting is healthy, but only when done the right way. It’s so hard for a couple in a heated argument to focus on actually solving the problem instead of blaming the other person, especially if they’re used to this toxic approach with their family. If you know how to deal with your partner in fights instead of running away and throwing the relationship in the gutters, then you know you can overcome anything together.
Having doubts and second-guessing the relationship is 100% healthy. It’s normal to not be absolutely sure about the one you’re going to spend the rest of your life with. But you should always trust your gut feeling, if you feel that something isn’t right open up about it with your partner and communicate your feelings so that you can build a stronger relationship that will last.